Life Gives You Lemons

October 30, 2007, 12:10 am
Filed under: lemons, odd random thoughts

When life hands you lemons, ask for tequila and salt and call me over!!

I don’t understand this
October 16, 2007, 7:00 pm
Filed under: news of the weird, random beauty

I don’t know what a sim is, or the exact definition of machinima. But I don’t have to. You don’t have to either.

This is beautiful. A “video” of creating Van Gogh’s Starry Starry Night within second life.

Found on Christopher Penn’s blog.

Cleaning Up?
October 15, 2007, 7:50 pm
Filed under: Uncategorized

Blog Action Day, today. Theme to write about: the environment. Huge category. Enormous. Fraught with lots of personal guilt and shallow feel-good gesturing too. What can we, any of us do, for real, about the environment?

Look, if you want quick tips, hit up Google, read a book on it or check out some blogs and podcasts on the topic:

InhabitatGreenpeaceTreehugger EcoTumble | Lighter Footstep | Vote for Trees | Five Limes 

But for this moment, would you take your thoughts on this issue to a different level? Can you step away from knee-jerk pro or con or eco-gestures and consider a bigger picture? About what kind of person you want to be in the world? Can you try to think about your life as connected, and take into consideration how you care for and regard yourself, others around you and total strangers?

Do you accuse and assign blame? Do you look for quick fixes to assuage your own guilt? Or are you earnestly trying to keep your mind open about what could be better, where to find ideas, how to spread them? What actions in your quiet private everyday can make you healthier and more able to contend with complex issues like the environment? Can you source your actions from love and can you take the time to understand how you affect the broader world? Can you see beyond your selfish opinions and wants and try to imagine how your actions and positions play out on larger and larger scales?

Can you start cleaning up the environment inside your head, be patient with yourself, but earnestly start?

Can that lead to looking at your life just a little bit more clearly every day, and beginning to adopt, sustainably, the kinds of individual actions, thoughts and habits that can lead to less personal environmental impact in the future?

Activism tweaks the nose of patience. But, I think patience does more with time. Next time you fly (and, natch, offset your carbon), stare down the hills and valleys and contours traced by gazillions of rivulets over time and know the whole friggin landscapes can be shaped by water. How will you apply this to shaping your own life?

Powerful Women: But are they Ugly? Hot? Cute?
October 14, 2007, 2:19 pm
Filed under: Uncategorized

No Tara, it’s not just you:

Is it just me, or does everyone else notice that women who make it to some reasonable level of power in North America are painted as either sluts, junkies, airheads, bitches, witches* or some other awfully negative female stereotype?

We attack and demean what we feel is threatening. So, 1) why is our culture so threatened by strong women? and 2) do we attack and demean women in fundamentally more harsh, shallow, callow ways?

Why the pressure on strong women to be “everything” and not just who they are. Remember Hillary being compelled to share her chocolate chip cookie recipe to somehow prove she was also a decent mom & wife? Blegh.

But this, from the comments, bothered me even more:

It’s a difficult balancing act to need to be seen as a pro-active, ambitious leader, yet a gentle and caring woman, and I think it results in some women with good intentions looking a lot more ruthless than they are.

Ok waiddaminnit. Do we ask our male leaders to pull off this sleight of hand too? Really? To the same degree?

Not With MY Daughters!
October 4, 2007, 3:32 pm
Filed under: business life, parenting, rants, women

<rant>I get a more than a little edgy over our sexpectations for women. Don’t get me wrong, sex is great. Sexy can be a lot of fun. But when it seems overwhelmingly that sexy = “hot women scantily clad” (oh boy, bring on the spiders) as opposed to sexy = “awesome things between pairs (or, whatever) of people,” that can just suck.

There are lines I draw in the sand. There are lots of things people find acceptable — or at least fail to question — that set me right off, especially when a woman’s sex appeal gets pulled into business and other inappropriate settings.

So without trying to parse “what is ok?” and “what isn’t?” in laborious detail, can we all watch this and just agree *something* is very very wrong?

Next time you laugh or leer at outrageously raunchy women in a very public setting, tell me — is this really how you want your daughter to look, feel and behave?

I’m all for bringing sexy back. I just think it’s way sexier when sexy is shared a little more evenly. </rant>